therapy for perfectionism
Are you constantly ruminating on the same thing over and over again?
Do you feel like you are obsessed with getting that something just right?
Is it hard for you to let go of even the smallest things?
Maybe you’re someone who feels like you can’t move forward until you’ve successfully completed this other thing first…
If this sounds like you, it’s likely you may also feel like other parts of your life and yourself are suffering as well. It could be that your relationships, school, career, or self care is taking a hit because it’s challenging to push past those ruminating thoughts and obsessions. You know this, but somehow you still struggle to let whatever it is go.
It’s time to take back control of your life and your circumstances, instead of allowing yourself to be controlled by rigidity and inflexibility. Let’s create more space for other things to enter into your life and allow you to feel whole again.
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Perfectionism is becoming the new normal.
Studies show that perfectionistic tendencies have increased dramatically across the past 2 decades. Around 92% of the population struggles with some level of perfectionistic expectation. This expectation is increasingly common amongst young adults and millennials. According to the American Psychological Association, college students have fallen especially susceptible to unrealistic expectations of perfectionism. Not only are college students feeling the pressure, but so are those in the workforce with ⅓ of people reporting feeling the need to quit their jobs due to the fear of failure or not being able to meet certain standards. (“Perfectionism Among Young People Significantly Increased Since 1980s, Study Finds,” 2018)
There are some known factors that contribute to this increased phenomenon. Those factors include:
Unrealistic expectations from parents or society
The relentless need to meet other’s expectations
Perpetual fear of failure
Misconceptions of “the seemingly perfect life” through media
While perfectionism seemingly comes across as, well, perfect, it is actually counterproductive. Feeling an increased need to meet rigid and unrealistic expectations increases your stress levels and by default decreases long term success leading to a “less than perfect” life.
Therapy CAN HELP TO LIMIT PERFECTIONISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
Perfectionism can be a byproduct of or a beginning to developing other mental health issues such as obsessive compulsive disorder or obsessive compulsive personality. Therapy can be an effective way to combat those perfectionistic tendencies and allow more time and energy back into your day to day.
With therapy, you can expect to identify the parts of you that are more rigid, such as rules you may have placed on yourself or fallen victim to by societal standards, then replacing those with more realistic and achievable expectations. Therapy can teach you to be more open minded and allow life to happen in your favor without feeling the need to control the outcome. Therapy will bring you peace of mind and well-roundedness so you can get back to spending more time with friends, cultivating healthy relationships, increasing self care, and/or doing whatever else you may feel has slacked.
At CoreWellness, LLC, our therapists offer compassion and understanding to allow you the space to feel comfortable being open and transparent. As professionals passionate about young adult mental wellbeing, we are well versed in the issues commonly associated with this group of individuals. We pride ourselves in remaining knowledgeable and up to date on current trends and contributing factors that may be perpetuating what our clients commonly face. We are also well aware of the steps necessary to take to overcome those many challenges.
With help and support, it is possible to free yourself from pressure and perpetual stress. We want to help you get out of the rat race and reconnect with your true core self to find real success.
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WHAT’S STOPPING YOU FROM LETTING GO OF PERFECTIONISM?
I’m afraid to start therapy because I don’t want to fail at it.
With therapy, the only disservice comes from a lack of effort. It’s likely you are already someone who puts in the effort to achieve amazing milestones. Allow your efforts to be placed in an area of life that will give back to you by providing valuable feedback, tips and tools that you can use towards becoming a more well rounded person.
I don’t believe I have time to commit to therapy because I may fall behind in other things.
If perfectionism has been an ongoing struggle for you, it’s likely you are over committing yourself to an area of your life that doesn’t require as much time. Allow yourself the space to refocus your energy and reprioritize your time to give back to yourself. We have a team of clinicians with a range of availability from mornings, evenings, to weekends, so we can accommodate an array of schedules.
I’m not sure therapy is the right approach for my situation.
It’s okay to still have doubts. We offer free consultations to allow you to speak with a clinician about your situation to determine if we’ll be a good fit for you and vice versa. It takes only 20 minutes, so allow yourself the chance to try something new in order to achieve real success - committing to you.
Perfectionism doesn’t have to be your new normal.
You can allow space for freedom and flexibility in your life. You are capable of having balance and fulfillment without the added weight of pressure and stress. If you need additional questions answered before making the final step in booking your first session, we offer free consultations. You can also fill out the form below, and a member of our time will respond within 24-48 hours. We are available via phone call at 214-307-2649 Monday-Friday 9a-6p. In the meantime, check out our blogs and other helpful resources on our website. Talk to you soon!
Reference: Perfectionism among young people significantly increased since 1980s, study finds. (2018, January 2). https://www.apa.org. https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2018/01/perfectionism-young-people
